Gratitude

Gratitude

In everyday life, it is so easy to be focused on what is wrong – the ache or pain, the lump of cellulite, the angry friend, the undone chore.  This is how the brain wired for survival works.  Ferret out what is wrong, highlight it and fix it.  Problem is, there is always something wrong – “If it ain’t one thing, its another.”   Roseanne Rosanna Danna from SNL  had it pegged!  Personally, I start to pay attention to things when I hear the same sentiment from many varied sources.  “An attitude of gratitude” has been ringing  in my ears for a decade or two easy.  Then there is John Gottman, a marital researcher, who found that happy couples average a ratio of 5 to 1 positive to negative comments with their spouses. I dare you to try that one at home!  And we all know the parenting advice, “catch em being good.”  Then I read Conversations With God, and it struck me that the advice from “God” (or whomever you deem it to be) was to pray as if you already have what you want and to pray from a place of appreciation.  Hmmmmm . . ..  I guess God/the universe responds to appreciation the same way that our spouses and children do.  Well, that was it for me.  If “God” likes gratitude, my children like gratitude and my husband likes gratitude, I’ll give it a try.  So now I really, really try to notice what is going well in my life and what feels good in my mind and body.  I used to rush out of yoga class anxious to complete the next chore on my list and preoccupied with being too hot, cold, tired, hungry, fat, thin, full, sleep deprived, overworked, under scheduled (you get the idea).  Now I really try to remember to pause and notice the sensations in my body and the sweet feeling of completion after a class. When my crotchety hip is quiet, I say thank you.  When I make it to class on time, I nod with appreciation.  When I complete a pose, I say “good job sister!”  And you know, it really does work!  I have had the revelation of how much goes well and how blessed all of us are who are ensconced in the mystery of everyday rightness.  The list of events small and large that go well and often without notice is long and humbling.  We are all subject to grace whether we know it or not.  The way to know it is to begin to notice it.

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